7 signs she’s attracted to you (according to science)

Unsure if those glances amount to anything significant? Here are your answers…

We’ve all been there. Plucked up the courage, made a move, and been brutally rebuffed. It’s a sting that doesn’t numb quickly, knocks our confidence and often has us wishing we could go back in time to before we made a fool of ourselves.

But, even though we’re not able to offer you time travel, we can provide some guidance as a solution. Read on for the seven signs that she’s attracted to you, according to science (kind of) – tips and tricks to ensure you know that she reciprocates your feelings before you take the plunge.

1. Look for open body language

If she’s standing in front of you, arms crossed and looking down at her shuffling shoes, then she’s probably not into you. There’ve been studies to suggest that women who are actually interested will make sure that they are open to your presence, not closed off and unwilling to engage.

Look out for: uncrossed arms, longing gazes and a genuine smile

2. Suggestive behaviour is a sign

This should go without saying, but if women engage in flirtatious body language and behaviour, then they’re likely interested or attracted. Such actions take the openness one step further, and include baring areas such as the arms or neck.

Look out for: tilted heads to expose pheromones, and hands and wrists clearly visible to show soft skin

3. Blushing

Blushing is one of the most common indicators to show if someone likes you. Either that, or you’re just making them feel embarrassed and uncomfortable...

Look out for: blushing – but make sure if it’s that or make-up

4. Look at her feet

Not in a creepy Tarantino way. Rather, articles and certain studies have shown that the direction of a woman’s feet can often determine what she desires – like a subconscious compass – the way in which Enzo Ferrari might have angled himself towards the powerful silhouette of a sports car.

Look out for: her feet pointing towards you, and not the exit

5. She'll stare at you

It is said that women will have bigger pupils if they see a spark between you – and, overall, if she’s gazing and not breaking eye contact, she probably thinks you’re worth staring at, which is good news for you.

Look out for: unbroken eye contact (but not in a menacing way)

6. Listen to her voice

According to research, both men’s and women’s voices lower when they’re talking to someone they’re attracted to, which means that if she sounds husky, she’s likely into you. (That or she’s Scarlett Johansson.) You’ll be guilty of the same, deepening your voice to Will Arnett levels, to sound more passionate, sultry and intense.

Listen out for: a drop in the pitch of her voice

7. Is she mirroring you?

Those who feel an affinity towards one another are likely to mirror each other’s body positions and mannerisms. Mirroring can help establish a rapport and can also be used to test whether the person you are speaking to likes you back. Like the feet, this subconscious signal often shows compatibility.

Look out for: raising glasses in sync and other mimicked actions

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